The Connection Protocol - Connection Protocol

The Connection Protocol: Baseline Diagnostic

1 / 10

When you think about your typical evenings together after work or chores, how do you spend your time?

We are usually too exhausted to interact at all.

Sitting in the same room watching TV, but rarely speaking.

In completely separate rooms doing our own things.

Engaging in deep conversation or a shared activity.

2 / 10

If you were handed a proven, clinical system to rebuild your connection and reverse the drift, how committed are you to doing the work?

Willing to try, if my partner puts in the effort too.

I'm taking this quiz, but I fear it might already be too late.

Skeptical, but I know we need to change something.

100% committed. I am ready to do whatever it takes.

3 / 10

How often do you feel genuinely appreciated, seen, and valued for who you are (not just what you do for the house)?

Rarely. I feel mostly invisible.

Never. I feel completely taken for granted.

Occasionally, when I point it out or ask for validation.

Every single day.

4 / 10

Do you feel there are unspoken resentments or unresolved issues from the past quietly affecting your daily interactions?

No, we have processed and let go of our past baggage.

A few minor things, but nothing that derails us.

Yes, past resentments dictate our entire dynamic and prevent us from moving forward.

Yes, there is an underlying tension that flares up frequently.

5 / 10

When you are stressed, anxious, or facing a personal crisis outside the home, who is the first person you turn to?

A friend or family member. I don't want to burden my partner.

Usually my partner, though sometimes a close friend.

My partner. They are my absolute safe space.

Anyone but my partner. They wouldn't understand or would use it against me.

6 / 10

How would you describe the current state of physical affection and intimacy in your relationship?

Completely non-existent.

Occasional, but it sometimes feels routine or scheduled.

Frequent, fulfilling, and mutually satisfying.

Very rare, and usually feels like an obligation.

7 / 10

As you look toward the "Empty Nest" phase (or your next 10 years together), what is your primary emotion?

A little uncertain about what our new routine will look like.

Excited to travel and rediscover each other.

Dread. I try not to think about the future.

Anxious that without the kids or daily distractions, we won't have much in common.

8 / 10

If you are completely honest, how often do you feel like you are operating as "co-managers of a household" rather than romantic partners?

Frequently. The "Roommate Syndrome" is setting in.

Sometimes, especially during busy or stressful weeks.

Rarely. We still prioritize our romantic connection.

Always. The romantic spark feels completely gone.

9 / 10

How do you typically handle conflict or disagreements now compared to the early years of your marriage?

We bicker more, but eventually move past it.

We avoid conflict entirely by simply not talking to each other.

One of us usually shuts down, walks away, or gives the "silent treatment."

We communicate openly and resolve it as a team.

10 / 10

What is the primary focus of your daily conversations?

We barely have conversations anymore.

General updates about work and our daily schedules.

Our personal goals, ideas, and our relationship.

Strictly household logistics, bills, or the children.

Your score is

The average score is 37%