The Connection Protocol - Connection Protocol

The Connection Protocol: Baseline Diagnostic

100% confidential and anonymous
Takes exactly 2 minutes (10 quick questions)
Includes a private stage-specific action plan

Stage 1
Secure Partnership
31–40 points

Stage 2
Silent Drift
21–30 points

Stage 3
Critical Distance
10–20 points

Your answers place you in one of these three stages. Nobody sees your result but you.

1 / 10

When you think about your typical evenings together after work or chores, how do you spend your time?

In completely separate rooms doing our own things.

We are usually too exhausted to interact at all.

Sitting in the same room watching TV, but rarely speaking.

Engaging in deep conversation or a shared activity.

2 / 10

If you were handed a proven, clinical system to rebuild your connection and reverse the drift, how committed are you to doing the work?

I'm taking this quiz, but I fear it might already be too late.

100% committed. I am ready to do whatever it takes.

Willing to try, if my partner puts in the effort too.

Skeptical, but I know we need to change something.

3 / 10

How often do you feel genuinely appreciated, seen, and valued for who you are (not just what you do for the house)?

Never. I feel completely taken for granted.

Rarely. I feel mostly invisible.

Every single day.

Occasionally, when I point it out or ask for validation.

4 / 10

Do you feel there are unspoken resentments or unresolved issues from the past quietly affecting your daily interactions?

Yes, there is an underlying tension that flares up frequently.

A few minor things, but nothing that derails us.

Yes, past resentments dictate our entire dynamic and prevent us from moving forward.

No, we have processed and let go of our past baggage.

5 / 10

When you are stressed, anxious, or facing a personal crisis outside the home, who is the first person you turn to?

Anyone but my partner. They wouldn't understand or would use it against me.

My partner. They are my absolute safe space.

Usually my partner, though sometimes a close friend.

A friend or family member. I don't want to burden my partner.

6 / 10

How would you describe the current state of physical affection and intimacy in your relationship?

Very rare, and usually feels like an obligation.

Occasional, but it sometimes feels routine or scheduled.

Frequent, fulfilling, and mutually satisfying.

Completely non-existent.

7 / 10

As you look toward the "Empty Nest" phase (or your next 10 years together), what is your primary emotion?

A little uncertain about what our new routine will look like.

Dread. I try not to think about the future.

Anxious that without the kids or daily distractions, we won't have much in common.

Excited to travel and rediscover each other.

8 / 10

If you are completely honest, how often do you feel like you are operating as "co-managers of a household" rather than romantic partners?

Rarely. We still prioritize our romantic connection.

Always. The romantic spark feels completely gone.

Frequently. The "Roommate Syndrome" is setting in.

Sometimes, especially during busy or stressful weeks.

9 / 10

How do you typically handle conflict or disagreements now compared to the early years of your marriage?

One of us usually shuts down, walks away, or gives the "silent treatment."

We avoid conflict entirely by simply not talking to each other.

We communicate openly and resolve it as a team.

We bicker more, but eventually move past it.

10 / 10

What is the primary focus of your daily conversations?

We barely have conversations anymore.

Our personal goals, ideas, and our relationship.

Strictly household logistics, bills, or the children.

General updates about work and our daily schedules.

Your score is

The average score is 37%